On a recent transatlantic flight, I
sat next to a young lady who went on and on about finding her “soul mate.” “Our
likes and dislikes are even the same!” “We finish each other’s sentences!” “We
agree on everything!” She was genuinely and unashamedly happy and wanted
everyone to know, which I found very endearing. The happiest of people always
want the world to know. However, my inner coach was stuck on her comment that
she and her love agreed on everything.
Coach Wilson: So you agree on everything?
Ms. In-Love: (Big smile) Yes!
Coach Wilson: You never argue?
Ms. In-Love: Never! (All her sentences had exclamation points. Trust me.)
Ms. In-Love: Never! (All her sentences had exclamation points. Trust me.)
Coach Wilson: Aren’t you worried
that you might get bored after a while?
Ms. In-Love: (Dreamy eyed) O,
noooooooo! Never!!
As I wasn’t interested in raining
on her parade, I decided to refrain from saying, “If you agree on everything, then
one of you is redundant.” But my inner conversation continued. It seems to me
that what we should be wanting in a soul- sharer is an ability to hold up a
mirror to our souls so that, abracadabra,
we see what we have, up until now, been blind to.
Have you ever been in a
relationship where many of the encounters left you turning inward, facing
unrealized potential or unpleasant realities? (Note: Soul sharers bring us joy
but they don’t always make us happy.) This is part of what I am referring to
when I write about sharing soul. There is something about this companion that brings you to your attention. I have had such a relationship and, believe
me, it is the greatest of gifts.
I believe that one of the most
important aspects in developing a great soul is self-awareness. The challenge
here is that we only know what we are conscious of: we are ignorant of what
lies within the unconscious. Think about this. Whatever remains at the level of
unconsciousness remains outside self-critique and self-governance.
Self-awareness doesn’t happen in a
vacuum. I need a soulful person who acts as a mirror, helping me to see what
has heretofore been hidden and, therefore, holding me back. This is the
companion that helps free me to more fully become the self I was created to be
and to fulfilling my calling. I do so hope and pray, that Ms. In-Love and her
Beau, have found such souls in each other.
Copyright, Monte E Wilson, 2013
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