There
can be no transformation without self-awareness for I must first know who I am
before I can truly know what needs to be transformed. Yet, in my experience,
people seem to want to skip this part of the transformational process and go
straight to reinvention.
Vague
feelings of discomfort or even of self-hatred may inspire us toward change, but
if we do not dig deeper into the source of these feelings, all efforts toward
self-transformation end only in window dressing where flimsy curtains are hung
so as to hide the still very real and very present unwanted traits.
In
this process of seeking to be different, to be other than what we are, wherever
there is a lack of self-awareness, what we end up with is not self-transformation
but self-dramatization. Having skipped over the first step in the process, the
individual can only act out a role he or she wishes to play, rather than being transformed into the person he intends to become. What he is left
with, then, is playing a role in a tragicomedy.
What?
You don’t think people close to you can’t see the affected behavior, feel the
stress and tension this continual act is placing on you, can’t hear the
inauthenticity in your voice? Don’t you think they are entertained when they
see you walk out on the stage and realize you have forgotten to put your mask
on, forgotten the memorized lines, and all you have to fall back on is being your
true self?
Oops!
Copyright, Monte E Wilson,
2012
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