Sometimes all we need is for someone to point us in
the right direction…
I was talking to a friend
the other day and he asked me what was it about coaching that I enjoyed so
much. In answering, I told him about Rick, one of my first clients.
On our first coaching call,
Rick told me that everywhere he worked he always started out receiving superb
360 reviews and accolades for his IT genius and skill sets. “Management tells
me the sky is the limit and promotions are going to come quickly. But after a
while … I don’t know what happens … people change their minds about me. I start
getting warnings about my attitudes. I end up leaving before there is anything
negative in my permanent files. And then the process begins all over again. I
hate this. So does my wife.”
In our second session, I
asked Rick to cite his top three values. When he started saying he needed time
to think, I told him he actually didn’t and to just tell me what comes to mind.
Now. “Freedom, love, and adventure,” he replied. A nano-second later, he said, “O, no…” He saw it
immediately. “Is it possible to change my values?”
If freedom is your highest
value, then how are you going to respond to the increased responsibilities that
come with promotions? Rick had been a master of self-sabotage. After a few more
sessions, I was able to help him change his entire mindset so that all those
past behaviors would no longer be an issue. Within a couple of months, he was
promoted and his career was finally taking off.
This is what I love about
coaching. My greatest passion in life is helping people to get to where they
want to go, both as human beings and in their careers and callings.
Like Rick, the reason many
of my clients first contact me is because they are facing a specific challenge
or conflict at work or in their personal lives that they can’t get through on
their own. What they want is another set of eyes and ears, another perspective,
a clearer head, and a wiser approach. This is what I seek to provide.
Most people get stuck in the
process of working through challenges and conflicts because their attention is
restricted to the surface level. What I help my clients to see is that both the
questions they ask and the answers they come up with come from beliefs,
value-systems, and cultural influences, that exist on a subconscious level: a
level they have never investigated. Before a successful strategy for breaking
through their challenges can be mapped out, however, we first need to have an
adequate understanding of who the person is, as well as who they wish to
become. Why? Because “Who” always
proceeds “What.”
Like Rick, what if you
possess beliefs and values on a subconscious level that are actually creating
the challenges and conflicts you are facing? Imagine what it would be like to
be fully congruent—where your values, beliefs, mindset, and behaviors, all line
up in support of your vision for the person you intend to become and the work
you know you are to accomplish.
What would your life look
like, if you had someone to help you discard the blinders placed on you by
others, so that you could see all of the possibilities, not only for solutions
to your present challenges, but for personal transformation, as well?
From
time to time, we all need someone to help us: a coach who will help us see what
we are not seeing, hear what we are not hearing, feel those feelings that we
have spent a lifetime avoiding, all so that we can finally get moving again
toward whom we were called to become and doing what we were called to do.
If
you are feeling stuck or frustrated by a situation in life, please connect with
me. I may be able to help.
As
always, my first coaching call is free. You can contact me at MonteThird@gmail.com to schedule your
appointment.
Copyright,
Monte E Wilson, 2015
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