My first encounter with death was when my Uncle
Harry died. When my dad told me, I went into my bedroom weeping and retching. I
was so traumatized there was no way I was going to his funeral. As I was only a
boy, my parents were very caring and respectful, so did not force me. The
closest thing I could come to explaining to dad what I was feeling was—terror.
As I grew older I was haunted by thoughts of my
grandfather dying. (Monte, Sr.) However self-centered and juvenile, I
frequently begged God to rapture us all to heaven before this could happen. (As
an aside, I think many of the people who profess a belief in the “soon return
of Jesus Christ for His Church” are actually whistling in a graveyard, hoping
there won’t be a coffin in their futures.)
Death
is Not Natural
During my formal studies in psychology one of the
bon mots that we were taught was to “Teach
people that death is natural.” What intrigued me was that I was hearing this
from a professor who was a Christian.
Professor: Mr. Wilson, I can see that you
disagree.
Mr. Wilson: I do. I think death is bloody well
the most unnatural thing we will face in life.
Death is not natural. It showed up as a
consequence of our free will choice to follow after God or to go our own way.
God offers us life in and under Him, but we prefer death and going our own way.
St Paul goes so far as to assert that death is
not only unnatural, it is an enemy: “the last enemy to be destroyed.”
“But Monte, I want
to die. In death I am freed from sickness and suffering, and from this evil
world. I don’t fear death, I desire
it.” Sounds quite spiritual, doesn’t it. The problem is that people who say
such things usually have yet to first
face the fact that death is an enemy. And how do you think God responds to
those who speak and live as if the world and life that He gifted us with as something
to escape as quickly as possible?
Tell me, when Jesus was in the garden praying in
the shadow of his death on the cross, was he saying, “Whoopee, I am about to be
outta here”? Or did he pray, “If there is anyway around this, Father, I’ll take
it…let this cup (death) pass from me”?
When Jesus’ friend Lazarus died did He let out a
shout of glee? No. He wept. Death is agony. Death is not natural, not what God
intended for us.
Death is a terrifying enemy. YES, it is far more
than this, or, rather, can be. But until we first face the reality of death
being unnatural and an enemy, all of our rejoicing and celebrating that Brother
Wilson is now with Jesus, are akin to Jesus skipping the bloody agony of the
cross and going straight to heaven. As Peter Kreeft wrote, “Death cannot be a friend; it can only become a friend, after first being an
enemy.”
Copyright, Monte E Wilson, 2014
The failure you mention is the common reason why funerals to often fail to bring comfort...we do not meet the enemy squarely and wrestle him to victory.
ReplyDeleteI love the words of this anthem we use at the end of a funeral service as the coffin is being wheeled out of the sanctuary leading us to the grave sight...
'Christ is risen from the dead, trampling down death by death, and giving life to those in the tomb.'
He has met this terrifying enemy and trampled him underfoot. As we each in our turn meet death, we cling with all our might to the truth that Jesus prevailed...for us.
Thanks for the post. Love the Kreeft quote at the end. Love IS stronger than death.
Wayne